As i took time off work to glance through status of friends on whats-app and social media, i realize that on everyone’s status was the Jnr despite unheard of having a wedding which to some lays many pressure to his fellow males who are yet to marry considering girls would now be yearning for a wedding of that caliber.
Good or bad as it may be, is not the wedding that really matters but what happens next is the real count as a popular adage in Akan tells “Aware” which means marriage but in a proverbial way is called “A wa re” because its a journey of long. Every young girls dream is to get married, same as every bachelor wants to honour his bride with a #KencyTypeoffWedding. With this am giving five take-aways every young lady must learn from this fairy tale marriage.
1. Be at the right place at the right time– More times a lady’s location would tell the kind of man who is likely to approach her, from #Kency2020 we learnt that the duo met at a friends wedding and then boom it kick off, hence our ladies yearning for marriage should be mindful of places they go and drawing the line between where to go and where not to step.
2. Be Simple- Speaking to many male friends of mine who are married, i occasionally quiz them why they took that bold step to marry just one woman which is their wife. Surprising none used beauty as a basis for marriage, but mostly an attribute of the lady. That attribute can be respect, tolerance, encouragement, contentment amongst others. Note a man would date any lady because of her striking beauty but they wont marry her because of her beauty but rather an attribute she has or any of the attributes listed.
3. Be ready- Many girls today seem not to be ready, men at every point in their lives desire something and when that desire comes to settle down just like any human they scout for the available and then who’s fit for that position. Been ready would mean a lady acting like a matured woman even when not yet married. This would be evident in her speech, her receptiveness to things, her courage as a woman and her commitment to her man at all times be it weary or gloomy. From the show of #Kency2020 we are made known the Tracy is just 23 years and Kennedy Osei is in his early 30’s, this tells you age never triggered the move but rather the Girls readiness for the mantle.
4. Pass the Test- This might be the ultimate hack to all of this lessons if taken seriously by any young lady reading this. As funny as it may sound the Hardest and most fearful decision of men is the decision to settle on just one lady affirming to the world that the decision he made is for better or worse. What men usually do is to test lady’s, and surprisingly most smart ladies pass them. A man may create a chaos or come up with a situation aiming to study your reaction and your likely response. This could be in line with his Job loss, lack of money, distress, sickness, anger and pressure. Hence is up to you to be on high alert to spot and pass the test of any man.
5.Know How to Run the home- Is often said getting a man is easy but keeping him is the real deal. Just as we learnt in economics back in Tertiary which states “Diminishing returns set in when Marginal utility increases, in simple terms eating kenkey for the rest life is not possible hence when the love is gone, beauty fades what’s next. Your man may marry you base on your positive attribute or inward beauty but all this would be invalid when you fail the real test in the marriage “Running The Home” A woman’s place ideally is the home and managing the home, kids and family effectively. This includes cooking, raising children, taking care of them, doing the household duties like cleaning and others, though one might have a maid to take up this chores, it is advisable you engage yourself too in the act as the maid you see today could be your husbands spouse tomorrow. I believe you would be taught more about basic house keeping when you’re ready to marry. [Share This Post to Someone]
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